Saturday 26 December 2009

How to win love back and have your ex fall in love with you all over again

It is clearly obvious that you cannot make someone fall in love with you; however winning back a former love is a challenge in its own league. There will always be reasons why a relationship had come to an end and if you are able to identify the reasons as to why this happened then you will likely increase the chances of winning love back and having your ex fall in love with you all over again.

If infidelity was a reason why your relationship ended then you would have to move slowly, give the person in question space and time to heal and learn to trust again. Moreover you have to be prepared to prove that you are worth trusting once again.

The first step to winning love back is to ensure that you are entirely sure that you do want your ex back. You should ask yourself why it failed in the first place, why you went astray and most importantly if you are ready to commit yourself to the relationship to ensure that it works.

If you are sure that you want to be with your ex, the next step is to admit that you wronged, go further to apologise for your actions and be sincere about it. This will not necessarily get your ex back but it will certainly help build confidence in you.

You must then allow your ex time to come to terms with what happened. Ensure that you do not move too quickly or press them to deal swiftly with the situation at hand. Do not fail to recognise that this is a fragile stage of winning your love back and thus have to show that you can be trusted.

There are other reasons why a relationship could come to an end, for example lack of affection. Many couples love to hear to other say “I love you” and this may die out as the relationship matures. This is also the same for hugging, kissing etc, if you slow this down you will definitely have the other party questioning if you do really love and care for them still. You must be careful to get the balance right, ensure that you do not smother them either as it may push them away.

You may find that your ex may still be into you; in fact they may still be in love with you but the last thing you’d want to do would be to suffocate them, texting and calling all the time asking why you broke up. The best approach would be to give your ex time and space and let them realise that they still do love you.

If you lost your ex due to excessive jealousy or controlling of one partner, you will have to learn to identify these problems. The best way to overcome these issues is to re-learn to trust each other and thus have a fighting chance of winning back your ex

Thursday 10 December 2009

Get Guy Back – A Gals Guide to Making Up

How do you get guy back? How do you convince him that what the two of you had together was special? This is your “get guy back” gal’s guide to making up.

First of all, you have to recognize that whatever happened, you were both at fault. If you cheated, he wasn’t giving you what you needed so you looked elsewhere. If he cheated, you were the one not giving what he needed. Yes, the cheater is morally culpable for the cheating. The moral responsibility does not lie with the person who was cheated upon. But the fault lies in both party’s laps.

Given that, it is important to forgive and forget. True forgiveness means that you let go of all of the anger related to the incident. You never bring it up again. You never let it cloud your relationship. If you cannot do this, you won’t get guy back for any period of time.

If you were the person at fault, apologize – and mean it. Too many times, after people say “I’m sorry,” there’s an “Oops I did it again,” moment. You’re not Britney Spears. It’s not cute. When you say you are sorry, you have to commit to changing. Otherwise, you don’t mean it and you won’t get guy back.

Be prepared to chase him a little bit. This doesn’t mean sending him hundreds of text messages or stalking him, but you have got to show him that you are still interested if you want to get guy back. You can’t expect him to come running back just because you have sent out some modest signals that you are ready to re-start the relationship. Put your ego in check and put your heart on the line.

You may have to settle for something less than you wanted. It may be that he is only ready to be friends when you want a full fledged boyfriend. It may take time to rebuild the trust. If this is the case, you need to give him the space he needs to get to know you again. Accept that you have to take what he is offering right now if you want to eventually get guy back.

Finally, you have to know when to give up on the get guy back strategy. Sometimes, you just have to move on. If your boyfriend is unable to forgive you, you are in a position where the best thing you can do is move on and enter into new relationships. While this will break your heart right now, it may be the best thing that could have happened to you. Whatever went wrong in this relationship, your soul mate is still out there. Get guy back may stop you from meeting him!

After assessing the situation...chose what’s best for both of you...and chose wisely. Get guy back or a new relationship.

Sunday 6 December 2009

Avoiding A Love Break Up

If you have ever had a love break up you know how painful it can be and that’s one of the things no one can ever get used to. It does not matter if is the second time round it can be still painful as the first one.

What is it to look for and how can you Avoid A Love Break Up?

Is physical contact getting less and less? Any kind of physical contact...You may have been used to holding hands with your partner, them putting their arm over your should in public. All of a sudden they stop touching you outside the bedroom and you have known them to be affectionate before, that shouts love break up.

If your partner is starting to make things without including you in the decision making or has to wait until you ask them and they make up a story instead of the truth then there is a problem. One good sign that shows you are heading for love break up is when they start an argument out of nothing, so they can go out without telling or inviting you.

If you used to go for a night out together, it is easy to notice this kind of behaviour and it will get worse. Sometimes you may go out together but somehow they will start the argument and leave and go somewhere else. Hey what going on...?

The best way to handle this is instead of asking questions. Try and make some improvements on your side. Be the person they first fell in love with. Questions will just bring some more arguments and no results. Just be nice and fun all the time if you want to Avoid Love Break Up.

Even though you might be thinking you are the victim, instead take them as the victim. Make their life a lot easier around you by not demanding any answers. Be independent but loving.

I once heard a friend say something like to avoid a break up, one of the tricks is to collect some cigarettes ends and put them in the ash tray. Make it look like you had a smocking guest and do that every time he goes for a night out without you. She said you have to use a different kind of cigs from the ones you smoke, if you smoke.

I don’t know if this will work, but we are all different and different things works for different people.

 
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